Lap of Honour
LAP OF HONOUR brings health, wealth, happiness and dreams come true to people and organisations the world over, through (self) awareness coupled with the calm wisdom and courage to manage change.I have used feng shui as a 'front' for my self-discovered 'therapy' since the 1980s. Here is the true formula that has successfully worked for hundreds of my clients, using feng shui as the ‘bit at the end’ that supports the process of change, stability and growth, working on the principles of acupuncture in your space to bring out the best in you – as well as your tastes – within and around your space.
Secret Formula
The key lies in our belief systems. We create our present realities based on past experiences, often held in the subconscious. The feelings that come from these realities are what we tend to recreate, proving ourselves right about who we think we are, or ‘should’ be, even though it may not be who we truly are, or wish to be any more.
This is where we need to un-learn, in order to allow our life scripts to get up to date with the truth of who we really are right now, or make space for who we are growing into, over and above the safety of the smallness that we have allowed ourselves to be.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest
fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness
that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child
of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened
about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We
are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the
glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission
to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically
liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson, as quoted by Nelson Mandela in his inaugural speech.
By simply following our uncomfortable, though familiar feelings back to the source - often in childhood, or somewhere early on in life - we can locate our depressed 'pause buttons' and set them free. With natural purity and power reclaimed, it’s easy to allow new, more desirable options to come to life as we grow into healthy, purposeful, more passionate human beings.
For example, where a dominant (personal or business) partner may be replacing a parent, sibling, best friend or bad experience, awareness will give you the power to turn this around. Your change with allow change in those around you, so we all get to live life beyond the safety of a record stuck in an old groove.
Spatial Acupuncture
As physical acupuncture works on our physical bodies, feng shui works as spatial acupuncture in our physical spaces reflecting our current state of life. Environmental changes will thus affect what life brings and we can therefore add a bit of assertiveness, boundary out-of-sync relationships, remove the rubbish, overcome the outgrown, ground the good, create a space for who or what is trying to emerge from our very souls and safely shake things up as necessary, fine tuning when the time is right.
Our spatial matrix allows us to create karma, rather than helplessly believe we are at its mercy. Feng shui is one of my favourite tools, though it is by no means the only tool one can use with such work; and I often refer clients to whatever or whoever else may support their pathways.
With old scripts unlearned and a new ‘path of least resistance’ now operating as default in our subconscious, new choices, new opportunities and new outcomes naturally emerge as we consciously respond to what life brings. Responsibility becomes our ability to respond.
Red pill or Blue pill?
The greater our awareness, the less we can turn back to the excuses and justifications now outgrown. Remember the blue and red pills in 'The Matrix'? Why would anyone choose to crawl with the option to fly? That’s not to disrespect crawlers, as a wise person knows the time to crawl and the time to fly.
The good news is that you get what you want. You earn it. You replace the old scripts that new players perpetually repeated for you, reinforcing who you thought you were, or ‘should’ be. A magnetic space is created to draw forth your essence. Attract abundance. Who you really are and what you really want – or something better, that may lie beyond current perception. For example, I thought I wanted to learn to swim, and then I discovered scuba diving!
The challenge is that you have to work for it. Not everyone is at a stage in their life for this depth of work. It takes a brave amount of transparency and a lion's share of courage. Your loss is the loss of control and a much-loved neurosis that had served you well, protected you, and kept you small - but safe - as you survived the big bad world.
Three steps to heaven
Crack the code of your personal matrix and get clear about what you really want from life, why you’ve got what you’ve got here and now; and take away the fears of starring in your ultimate life script as a powerful, passionate participant in life’s fortunes.
The first step is to write a wish list. You have free reign to go wherever you want with this, though we'll get to the bottom line of it when we begin working together. You will get what you ask for, or something better. We often think we know what’s best for ourselves and how’re going to get there, where letting go of our attachments of how we want things to be – and how we are going to get there - can be amongst our greatest lessons. Life naturally brings goodness beyond present perceptions.
The second step is to produce a run down of your life so far. This should include as much of the following as you can gather, preferably in age order, pre-birth to date. Here we uncover our internal dialogue. Our life script and the key players who perpetually seem to replace themselves while playing the same roles for us, over and over again.
- A brief family history, including siblings, adults, major influences on the family, status, (in)stability, etc.
- What was going on in the lives of your parents, in particular your Mother, during your pregnancy? How was your labour? Were you breast fed? For how long? Did your mother experience post-natal depression? How did your Father, siblings, etc. take to your arrival?
- Defining moments. The silliest things may have had the most impact, especially if they just happen to cross your mind!
- Your personal social standing during childhood, puberty, education, work, sport, spiritual and any other communities.
- Any illnesses, accidents, traumas, dramas; and their causes - if known. What was going on in your life, or the lives of those closest to you, when these things took place?
- When did you gain or lose weight, lose your hair, start smoking, regularly/over drinking, drugging, whatever your poison? What was taking place, in and around you, at these specific points in your life?
- All major physical home moves, extensions, or changes in social structure, as well as the reasons why.
- Your present issues, including those you feel powerless over and accept as normal. How are things now? Ideally, how would you like them to be, if there were no restrictions?
- Who used to live or work in your space before you moved in? How did they do and what happened to them?
- How is your social, love and sex life? Your career? How would you want them to be?
Whatever you have not been able to bring to the table from the above list, we can bring up together, if need be. The above will provide us with all the clues we need to discover your essence and confirm the reflection of your life in your space, giving us a matrix within which we can create change.
The third step is that you simply and honestly show up, when the time is right for you, with an open mind and heart. This is your Lap Of Honour, so the only option is to do it – once and for all - with style. You are making the choice to let your past go, with thanks and grace, handing life over to the bigger and better things that await you.
Safety net
There is no shaming, no blaming, just naming; and no one will get hurt! Quite the opposite, it's often a real relief and great joy to finally get it all out and make sense of an old outgrown life.
This is your Lap Of Honour, where you gain the respect for surviving thus far, for having the courage to move on and now picking up your tools of awareness with which you can powerfully, passionately move forward, expressing your life purpose.
I will fully support you. I’ll be available to you by email and phone (when I’m not with a client) after our work together, just to help you find your new feet and confidently move forward. If you need to see me again, we can arrange that too. I am often asked back for an hour or two to check a space and check-in on a life once you have followed through on our agreed changes.
After that, I am rarely reappointed within another two to five years, once the ‘new life’ has been outgrown and it’s getting time for more; unless you live life in the fast lane and choose to clarify and stabilise your path along the way.
Our work together is totally confidential, respectful and safely transformational. It’s also a lot of fun and very creative, where your needs and tastes take primary position with supportive feng shui in mind.
It’s a bit like Colombo I guess, looking for clues, finding the patterns and cracking the code as you break through into personal freedom and unconditional love.
What’s it worth?
If you need a professional eye to guide you through the process, contact me to book a session. My current rates are £650 a day (eight hours), £400 per half day (four hours), or £130 per hour for a quick check-in to see how you are doing. I do a lot of prep work before I meet you, next steps work after we spend time together (included in the day and half day rates) and I can be flexible with time, as a few short meetings can be better for some.
Some people break through in half a day to a day, some need to take a week, or so. We’ll probably have an idea of how long we’ll need after our first meeting so we can work on time and money budgets from there.
The more of The Second Step (from above) you can work through yourself, the less time we need to spend together. You get to express your personal styles and tastes in your environment, ask for what you want – in every aspect of your life (and space) – and you’ll get it; or something better that was beyond your perception.
This is your Lap Of Honour. It’s no race. It works. You win!
Is that it?
I am called back, but it’s generally when all dreams have come true and it’s time to move on to another stage in life. To prepare for a baby, another branch of the business, a move, to make sure that the life is stable enough to keep growing with confidence.
You get into the driving seat and I will very occasionally meet you at life’s filling stations, in person or via email. I will work with you until the job is done, though I provide a quick, efficient in-and-out, rather than on-going dependency.
75% of my clients are male (quite an achievement for ‘growth’ work!) I communicate in ‘male’ language. Direct, though respectful honesty over politically correct, socially acceptable, appropriate beating-about-the-bush. Let’s go there…
My tools
Common sense
Feng Shui
Chinese Astrology
My compass
The Elements
Dowsing Rods
Spatial Pollution Cures (electromagnetic, historical, etc)
Space Clearing / Exorcism Tools
Holistic Counselling
Parenting (for children, adults, boardroom bullies)
Clues from Body Shape, Body Language and Movements
Clues from your energy field (aura, charkas, etc)
Clues from the Energy of your Space
Phases of the moon
Healing, Reiki, Crystals
Practical solutions and tools for real issues, in both Personal and Business
relationships
For who?
25+
Singles
Couples
Families
Small, medium, large businesses
Self-employed
Entrepreneurs
Go-getters
Boardroom consciousness
Team building + focussing
Traders managing/getting out of the rat race
Anyone ready to grow through change
Anyone who wants more from life
Contact
personal@menspeak.co.uk
Or leave a message on 07957 350034